How To Hold Your Frog

How to hold your Frog: What is bigger? Society or existence? Intelligence or the intellect? Existence or our own psychological structure? I think many in Western culture do not know the difference between ‘intelligence’ and the ‘intellect’. #HealingTrauma

All life is intelligence. An ant, a butterfly, a tree, a rainbow, a child and even existence itself. Intelligence is primary. The intellect is secondary. The intellect is a tool. It is a cutting instrument. That’s why when someone is smart we say they are ‘sharp’.

“The brain is more than an assemblage of autonomous modules, each crucial for a specific mental function. Every one of these functionally specialized areas must interact with dozens or hundreds of others, their total integration creating something like a vastly complicated orchestra with thousands of instruments, an orchestra that conducts itself, with an ever-changing score and repertoire.” –
Oliver Sacks

It is like a sharp knife with a pointed tip. That why we say ‘he was right on point’. However, what happens when we use this sharp knife to love someone? A scientist knows a frog through means of dissection. He pulls it apart. Knows all it’s pieces. Then it is dead.

To experience the same frog requires a different intelligence. To embrace the frog as it is with our awareness. Unfortunately, we have a tendency to intellectualise everything. We want to “know things.” We want to “fix things.”We even do this to our loved ones all the time:

We analyse, judge and dissect them. We pull them apart. Then we wonder why they feel dead. We do this to ourselves. Then we feel dead. Because it is a sharp knife we have dissected the world into a trillion pieces of good/bad, right/wrong, more/less, sin/virtue, and so on.

One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.

Remember the intellect is a tool. To know things. To fix things. To keep us safe and alive. However, it is used far too often, often incorrectly (i.e. excessively at ourselves or others) and it can only take us so far. There are some things we can never know. Never fix.

Some things cannot be measured entirely. They can only be experienced: Life. Truth. Love. Young science will only ever take us so far due to the nature of the intellect. The limitation of this tool. At some point we need to put down the knife and take a leap of faith.

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

Perhaps the greatest tragedy is we think the intellect is greater than intelligence. This could not be further from the truth. Intelligence is far greater than intellect. Existence is far greater than society. Intelligence is far greater than our own psychological structure.

Knowing this is freedom. A large scale vision: borderless and boundless. The highest realisation: ‘I am that which is not’. It must be ‘nameless’. For as soon as you label it, it becomes ‘a thing’ separate from the rest. A division created by the sharp knife: the intellect.

We will always need the intellect. However, we use it far too much. So much so that we have already carved up the planet. One of the greatest things we can do is absolutely nothing. Huh? If we did absolutely nothing for three to six months planet Earth would be thriving!

George Fragopoulos captured this beautiful imagine of Warruwi Boy and Joey.

Not trying to ‘know it’. Not try to ‘fix it’. Holding your Frog. The psychological mind rejects this. It thinks it’s bigger than intelligence; an inflated sense of self importance (i.e. self esteem: ‘to be special and above average’). It wants to ‘do’. It wants ‘purpose’.

It can’t accept the universe is absolutely perfect just the way it is. How can we convince the intellect this? Where is trauma? In society or existence? What creates most trauma? The intellect or intelligence? What will bring the most clarity? The intellect or awareness?

“Numb the dark and you numb the light.” – Dr Brené Brown

Trauma is within us. Trauma is not outside of you. In this sense, an ant, a butterfly, a tree, a rainbow, a child and even existence itself are our greatest teachers. Remember trauma is disconnection: not feeling safe, connected, accepted, a sense of love and belonging.

Healing Trauma. #YouBelong

Perhaps it is because we are viewing life with a cutting instrument. Dissecting rather than holding our Frog. Essentially, we are also doing self-esteem (i.e. ‘survival of the fittest’) rather than self-compassion (i.e. kindness, common humanity, mindfulness).

I understand mindfulness is a buzz word and you might be sick of hearing it. However, what if it is the greatest tool that has been given from wisdom traditions to young science? Mindfulness is ‘non-judgmental acceptance of the present with a sense of openness and curiosity’.

Mindfulness is the ‘complete opposite’ of the intellect. A break from needing to ‘know things’ and ‘fix things’ to actually ‘experience’ them for ourselves: Life. Truth. Love. The opposite of trauma: To feel safe, accepted, connected and a sense of love and belonging.

Beyond words. Beyond ideas. Beyond belief. Beyond fact. Beyond philosophy. Beyond psychology. Beyond science. Beyond spirituality. Beyond politics. What is beyond this? Intelligence: Freedom. The sense of love and belonging that we are inseparable to existence itself.

Australian Geographic: Laura Dance Festival
Cape York, Australia.

Existence created us. It lives within and all around us. An intelligence far superior than the intellect. Now we are talking clarity: to see things just the way they are. Now have some perspective. A large scale vision: borderless and boundless. The highest realisation:

I am that which is not. Beyond science and spirituality however either will get you here. But you must go the whole way. Breaking the glass wall. Jumping over the edge. Everybody will say no! But it’s too late. You already fell! The bad news: you have no parachute.

The good news: there is no ground. Enlightenment. You are a life. The byproduct of clarity is peace. Joy is peace dancing. With clarity you will find: peace, joy, love, compassion, blissfulness and ecstasy. So do not seek happiness. Seek clarity!

“The bad news is you are falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is there is no ground.” — Chögyam Trungpa

Clarity is where we operate at our optimal level of arousal. Not trapped in the threat state: hyper aroused (fight/flight) or hypo aroused (freeze). Clarity is the state of being present: it is perfect for awareness, health, performance and to be our most compassionate self.

Purposeful action is the natural consequence of clarity. You will not hurt anyone. Because everything is connected. You will still have the intellect. However, intelligence is primary; intellect secondary. With awareness you are now holding the sharp knife in the palm of your hand.

Ready to use if and only when you must. Not obsessively. Do knives kill or save more lives? Knives have saved more lives. They are used every morning, lunch and dinner. They are used to perform surgery on others. They can been used to kill another. To take our own life.

“The essence of warrior traits are demonstrated by: integrity with self, and honesty with others.” – Soke Behzad Ahmadi

However, a knife is not dangerous by itself. The danger depends on the hand that holds it. The intellect is not a problem in itself. However, without clarity it is incredibly dangerous. It is an exceptional tool if used correctly; unfortunately, incorrectly and too often.

It is also ‘considered’ the greatest weapon. This is not true. They say ‘when the power of love overcomes the love of power; the world will know peace’. I say when we experience intelligence just the way it is; we will know peace. This is marriage of science and mysticism.

So what’s bigger? Society or Existence? Intelligence or the intellect? Existence or your own psychological structure? It will hurt psychology that I asked this. However, it must be asked. Whatever the answer trust it. That’s how you hold your Frog.

“The sign of intelligence is that you are constantly wondering. Idiots are always dead sure about every damn thing they are doing in their life.” – Sadhguru

Enough is enough.

Let’s be equally critical (Intellect) and open minded (Mindfulness) = Intelligence.

Awareness. Compassion. Purposeful Action.

Common humanity.

Dedicated to Sadhguru. 🕊

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

Now you know the power of Trauma Informed Care. Let’s turn this framework into a mindset for personal, social and political change. If you are unable to, you might need help first, to get safe or become ‘unstuck’ from trauma. Reach out for trauma informed care. #YouBelong

With love,

Dr Louise Hansen
PhD in Psychology
Human Rights Activist

#HealingTrauma #Justice4Australia #WeAllBelong

Beth Orton – Central Reservation (1999):

Running down a central reservation
in last night’s red dress,
And I can still smell you on my fingers
and taste you on my breath;
Stepping through brilliant shades,
All the color you bring,
This time, this time, this time,
Is whatever I want it to mean.
If this is where memories are made,
I’m gonna like what I see,
And everything that I ever took for granted,
I’m gonna let it be.
I step through every shade,
All the color you bring,
This time, this time, this time,
Is whatever I want it to mean.
And everything and nothing
is as sacred as we’d want it to be,
When it’s really all,
Make it really all,
Compared to what.
It’s like living in the middle of the ocean,
With no future, no past,
And everything that’s good about now,
Well, might just glide right past.
I’m stepping through brilliant shades,
All the color you bring,
This time, this time, this time,
Is fine just as it is.
And everything is sacred here,
And nothing is as sacred as I want it to be,
When it’s really all compared to what.”


For my step father Mark Joseph McCarthy. You taught me to relentlessly seek, against everyone else’s advice.

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin
“Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of support we received overnight! We’re able to fund one more Indigenous Psychology student for a full three year Psychology degree from just a 10 minute appearance on ABC #TheDrum.” – Dr Tracy Westerman AM

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My partner Marcelo Alegre Rubic who taught me do not let anyone control your life. #YouBelong

Trauma Informed World was inspired by Kopika and Tharnicaa; two faces that remind us everyday of Australia’s cruel refugee system. One of many systems in Australia that remind us of the negative operation of power. #HomeToBilo

Kopika (left) and Tharnicaa (right) were kept at Christmas Island Detention Centre for nearly two years despite trauma informed calls to return them to Biloela, Queensland. Tharnicaa has spent most of her life detained by the Australian Government and is still in community detention to this day. #YouBelong
Trauma Informed World respects and acknowledges Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people as the Traditional Custodians of the land and waterways on which this educational resource was inspired. I acknowledge and respect Elders past, present and emerging. I honour the continuation of educational, cultural and spiritual practices and celebrate the extraordinary diversity of people and relationships worldwide. This website contains images of deceased persons. There are also swear words in some of the songs presented that portray intense emotions. This website is not intended to trigger people who have experienced trauma. However, if you do find any of the content triggering, each page has a link to Australia’s National Helplines and Websites for immediate mental health support. These are my own personal views and comments and may not reflect the views of my employer.

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Published by Dr Louise Hansen

This is a free educational website on Trauma Informed Care for survival and wellbeing. While each injustice differs, all stories share the same trauma: the negative operation of power. Let’s break the cycle of injustice and trauma together one day at a time. The byproduct of clarity is peace. Joy is peace dancing. Trauma is disconnection. Empathy fuels connection. Knowledge is power: “Love is the absence of judgment.” – His Holiness the Dalai Lama. #YouBelong

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